Note to self

Dear Self,

I am learning to let go of things I cannot change.

I am letting go of past memories, hurt and regret. 

Scars never disappear, they might heal and we might forget them, but they are permanent. Whether they be mental scars or physical scars, they tell a story and I am not ashamed. They are a marked reminder of the battle with my mind and my body. 

I will let go…

The past does not define me and I am not the definition of  broken, damaged or void. I will not be pitied. I am not a victim. I will not be defeated and I will not surrender. I have withstood the storm.

I am my own self. I will no longer seek validation from others, neither will I succumb to the morals of society. I will not be overshadowed by adversity. “I am a free human being with an independent will.”

I endeavour to discover my soul, in the pursuit of finding my fire. 

“Life is to be lived, not controlled; and humanity is won by continuing to play in face of certain defeat.”

- Ralph Ellison, Invisible Man

“Listen to the wind, it talks. Listen to the silence, it speaks. Listen to your heart, it knows.” 

- Native American Proverb 

“Life is an echo; 

what you send out comes back. - Chinese Proverb 

“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.”
― Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

Learned experience has taught me that;

Not everyone will like you.

Not everyone will get you. 

Not everyone will understand your journey.

Not everyone will appreciate your hardships.

Not everyone will value you and all you have to offer. 

And that’s ok, because remember;

There will be people who love and accept you, your scars, your body and your soul. 

These people will appreciate and treasure you for who you are. 

For kindness and compassion is engaging and harmonious.

Be the reason someone smiles. Be the reason someone feels loved and believes in the goodness of people.

We may be similar, two peas in a pod. Or our kindred spirits may be just as undeniable as our differences.

Sticks and stones may break my bones, 

but heartless words cut deeper; 

for wood and stone harm flesh alone, 

but language costs are steeper.

- Casey Thomas

"Why not think, that sometimes - just sometimes - you can overcome evil with silence.    And let people hear their hatefulness in their own ears, without distraction.  Maybe goodness is enough to expose evil for what it really is sometimes. Rather than trying to stop evil with more evil."

-Sylvain Reynard

 "Evil is its own punishment - Do you think they are happy ?  How could they behaving like that.  Some people are so self-absorbed and deluded that all the shouting in the world wouldn’t be enough to convince them of their own shortcomings."

- Sylvain Reynard

To struggle

To make mistakes

To fall

To shout and to cry

To ask for help

To not have your life figured out yet...

To be less than perfect 

But;

Most importantly It is OKAY to say NO to things that you are not comfortable with...... 

It’s OKAY to be yourself